Valentine’s Day: that one day every year that symbolizes love, appreciation, adoration, and martyrdom. And I don’t just mean the martyrdom of a saint, but that of your wallet as well. I’m sure the thought has crossed your mind as well, “Ah, another salty, single, butt-hurt guy talking about a holiday that doesn’t affect him”. You’d be right, I’m single, and two years ago this girl I was with for almost five years left me for a guy with a mustache from Chic-Fil-A around Valentine’s Day. But let’s have a moment and be real. Shouldn’t every day be a day to show all those sappy and genuine feelings to your partner?
Let’s take another step back. If you google Valentine’s Day you can get the whole history behind it. But in doing that, you also can’t deny the blatant commercialism that took place. Originally, it was a day that was meant to remember a saint. One day, though, I can only imagine some person thought to themselves, “Huh, I can take one part of this whole thing and make money off of it”. And that person was one of the smartest people to exist.
Now I have celebrated Valentine’s Day, and I have been single on Valentine’s Day as well. The way that I see this “holiday” is as a total construct. You have people who love it and people who are sad on it. And to explain myself in a small light, one example is the fact we not only have Valentine’s Day, but Sweetest Day as well. Both are on the American calendar, and are essentially the same thing: a money grab and an advertising gimmick.
Yes, your partner is very important. Yes, you should show and express that to them. And I’m sure you do to the best of your ability, but you do even more so on Valentine’s Day or Sweetest Day. Very easily, you can slip down the slippery slope of one day becoming an obligation. To me, an anniversary day is much more special than Valentine’s day. There is so much more significance and meaning there than the one day of the year you feel the need to throw a bright red heart on something and pelt someone with chocolate and flowers that are expensive and out of season.
Love should not be confined to one day of the year.
What if every month you made sure you had a date night with your partner? However the two of you define a date night. But do something special and out of the ordinary than the day to day normalcy. You don’t have to spend money to have a date night, because the truth is you can have intimacy in any fashion if your mind is truly present. And I get it, it takes a lot to schedule something, or take the time to slow down, or spend the money for it, and kids only add to that equation. But that’s also the point, even taking the time is showing so much affection.
What if every week you did something for your partner? An act of kindness. Something you don’t plan.
And I hope you’re showing affection in some way daily to your partner, or y’all need Jesus.
Wouldn’t all of that mean so much more than limiting it to one day in three hundred and sixty-five? We take for granted the relationships we have, we have so many days in a year, and in our lives, yet we create these lives into busy schedules and only dedicate one day to things that should be spent more time reflecting on and celebrating.
The bonds and relationships we have, whether platonic or romantic are all so valuable and monumental in our lives, and even influential on a daily basis. Whether it’s Valentine’s Day, Galentine’s Day, or Drinkabeerentine’s Day for you this weekend, I hope you can take the time to consider that, and maybe save yourself some money in the process.
If there is anything I hope you can take away from my scattered thoughts, is that love should be celebrated, but maybe it shouldn’t look like this. True love lasts longer than a day, are you experiencing true love? And how does it look to you, in any relationship?