It’s said that the average person will hold 12-15 different jobs in their lifetime. The average person will make 396 personal relationships, but only 33 will last. Also, the average American will move 11.4 times in their lifetime. All of those figures add up as the cause of people living their life, and experiencing all of the ups and downs that come with it.
People, opportunities, chances, houses, jobs, animals, beliefs, laws, leaders, and other things come and go. The question is are you settling for less, or fighting for and chasing what you want and deserve? All too often, I see someone choose the former rather than the latter. I’m guilty of doing the same thing. Everyone has done it at some point. But why?
People settle for what comes easy, and call it coincidence or fate to justify simplistic reasoning or emotion driven responses instead of deducing right from wrong or having a thought out decision or direction.
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That being said, it is true that people, jobs, opportunities, etcetera, will come into life at the right time. But that doesn’t mean that everything that just plops itself into your lap is right or good for you. Everything deserves some questioning. How else would faith, trust, loyalty, or love come to fruition without a question or explanation here or there?
“We all want everything to be okay. We don’t even wish so much for fantastic or marvelous or outstanding. We will happily settle for okay because most of the time, okay is enough.” – David Levithan
I’ve worked a job where I settled for two years stocking shelves, cashiering, bagging, and cleaning at a small town grocery store because it was an easy catch. What I really settled for was getting upset with management but not doing anything about the situations at hand, being drained mentally everyday, and a lot of headaches. Did I learn valuable lessons there? Did I make good friendships in the workplace Yes, but I settled for too long. I became comfortable, and okay was enough.
It doesn’t pay off to settle for less when you know you can achieve more and do better for yourself.
I’m 22, turning 23 later this year, I now have a job that promises career options and education and good connections. I’ve worked towards and achieved having better mental health over settling for “that’s just how I am” as a lame excuse for who I am as a person. I’m about to move into an apartment instead of living in just okay houses in downtown Kalamazoo. I’m now dating someone healthy and good for me who cares about me as much as I do for them. I’m no longer settling for less. I’ve seen the outcomes, the pros, the cons, and none of those things are worth it.
Don’t just settle for less because it’s easy. Don’t just settle for less because it’s what your gut tells you to do or because it just feels right. Don’t just settle for less because it sounds good right now, what about the future? Don’t just settle for less when you can be so much more. Don’t settle for a grey answer, when things are clearly black and white. Just don’t.
Nothing comes easy, but you are worth fighting for, for yourself, for others, and for your future and dreams. Chase after marvelous things, after things you feel are out of your league, or too good for you. Because those are the things that you deserve.